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Lorelei    Topic opened September 04, 2008, 10:00:53 AM
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This enraged me when I first watched it. I saw the video on MSN and looked googled for a print story. I'm just in shock. The print story seems to hint that the teacher explained her actions as discipline of some sort and isn't denying it. If this is in fact what happened in that classroom...I for the life of me can't figure out why instructing 16 children to tell another child why they don't like them and then casting a vote to see if the unfortunate 5 year old should be allowed to stay in kindergarten isn't emotional abuse.

http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,358956,00.html
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The Ogre Reply #1 in Autistic Boy Voted Out of Kindergarten — Posted September 04, 2008, 10:14:33 AM
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S*S Reply #2 in Autistic Boy Voted Out of Kindergarten — Posted September 04, 2008, 10:21:29 AM
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I really don't see this working, and to be honest, it doesn't even seem like has the kids best interests at heart even in a warped and distant way. The teacher just sounds like an evil bitch and she figures the autistic kid is "bringing it on himself".

I mean, people complain teachers arn't paid enough, but I think the real problem is the standard of degenerate fuckwit that are actually entrusted to teach. You get a good one here and there, but there are teachers who shouldn't be allowed to own pets, let alone be placed in a position of power over children.
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Dagda Reply #3 in Autistic Boy Voted Out of Kindergarten — Posted September 04, 2008, 11:36:27 AM

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This is clearly a teacher who doesn't understand how Asperger's Syndrome works. Having known a few people with it, including grown adults and young children, it often manifests as a person who really doesn't understand or care about other people's feelings. They don't have any concept of emotions other than their own, and don't understand why other people get angry when they do something that can easily be seen as rude or greedy.

A teacher in a grade school setting who'd never heard of, or at least never experienced it directly, might see a child who has Asperger's as lacking manners, or abusive to other children, or greedy, or just plain mean. A good description is that the child seriously doesn't understand that the people around him are people, not just objects in their world like a table or a television.

So, I can see why the teacher might have done this, thinking that she was teaching the child a lesson. However, you don't do something like that to a child without having first consulted with their parents, and actually talking to this kid's parents would have informed the teacher of the situation. And hopefully, would have kept this from happening.

It's possible that the teacher is actively malicious or cruel, but I tend to prefer to believe that people are ignorant or stupid, rather than actively mean.
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lil_poiple_ash Reply #4 in Autistic Boy Voted Out of Kindergarten — Posted September 04, 2008, 11:46:22 AM

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I'm not sure how it works in the states but in Canada his parents could be looking at filing a human rights suit against the school board or the teacher depending on how this is handled.

She was totally out of line in what she did both by kicking a child out of class esentially for being disabled. I understand that teaching can be both difficult and stressful but so long as a student with a disability is not a threat to himself or other people it is the teacher's job to make the class room work for all the students. It's their job to adapt the enviroment as much as possible so everyone's needs get met. And that requires a huge degree of creativity. Sometimes class sizes rise and rise and rise and with 30 to 40 students it can be difficult.

But this is a Kindergarten class of less than 20 kids.

Based on what I've read... if the school had been informed that the child had aspergers and that had been passed onto the teacher (or was in the child's "file") she's not fit to do her job.

Dagda: A person with aspergers in the moment often doesn't have an understanding of other peoples emotions and will come off as cold or greedy or selfish. But many times if someone makes the effort to explain things the person with Aspergers is usually very upset and apologetic for having hurt / offended other people unintentionally.

Even with out the disability no child should have to go through hearing all of their flaws and weak points. No child should be singled out to have the reasons why everyone dislikes them announced publicially. Especially not by a person in authority. Humilation and shame are not effective tools for educating children.
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Coyote Reply #5 in Autistic Boy Voted Out of Kindergarten — Posted September 04, 2008, 11:57:38 AM
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I'll take American History for $2000 please, Alex.

S*S, let's not get into a teacher-bashing rant because of this one looney, thanks.  I'm planning on being one, and I'm still of the general idea that there are way more good teachers than bad ones.

Anywho, I didn't realize that allowing a kid into class was a democratic action now.  This is horrible.
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1) God, I'm surprised this never happened to me. It sure sounds like a lotta shit that did.

2) I wish I could agree with the statement that there are more good teachers than bad ones. My experience, and that of most of the people I've ever talked to who went through public school, is that while really awful teachers are an exception, almost all of them are nearly useless burnouts who should probably take a few years off. And that is because we don't pay them enough.
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I agree that this teacher is a useless airburner who should not be allowed inside a school.  I also agree that there are far too many bad teachers out there, busily undermining their colleagues' better efforts:  one would be too many.  I also agree that in most situations, teachers are grossly underpaid.  However, I do not think that lining the pockets of "useless burnouts" is going to solve the problem:  that is just rewarding unacceptable performance.

What is needed is a situation where teachers facing problems for which they can't think of a reasonable, humane response have resources of peers, parents, administrators and support staff they can consult and access.  A lone teacher faced with fifteen tractable and "normal" students and one student with special needs may well feel driven to take steps to prevent the one from ruining the class for the many, but this should come in the form of bringing in a teacher's aide instead of enabling a lynch mob of five-year-olds. 

Like it or not, that teacher has just imparted a lesson to all sixteen children:  might makes right, and democracy is all about the tyranny of the majority.  Pass out the brown shirts, teacher, because this is Fascism at work.
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However, I do not think that lining the pockets of "useless burnouts" is going to solve the problem:  that is just rewarding unacceptable performance.
What makes them that way? Key word here is "burnout." Most teachers, even most of the really unhinged ones, were good at some point. Paying teachers more results in more teachers, alleviating the shortage which leaves many of them overworked, as well as allowing earlier retirement so that teachers who have been chewed into mulch by the system already are not pressured to continue their substandard work.
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da chicken Reply #9 in Autistic Boy Voted Out of Kindergarten — Posted September 04, 2008, 03:46:50 PM

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It's a joke. Laugh.

I'm pretty sure the Americans with Disabilities Act is going to rape the teacher in this case.  A private school might be able to get away with it.  No way will this fly in public school.
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Lorelei Reply #10 in Autistic Boy Voted Out of Kindergarten — Posted September 05, 2008, 06:20:03 AM
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Even 5 year olds without disabilities can get roudy or out of hand. I have students of that age with behavioral problems without autism. If you can't handle 5 & 6 year olds, good and bad, you have no business being a kindergarten teacher. The younger the students are, the more peatience and understanding you need.  This would have shocked and angered me me with a middle or high school teacher....but a kindergarten teacher? It just makes me sick to my stomach.

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So since the original story came out in May is there any kind of follow-up story?  Anyone know where the case currently sits?
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Lorelei Reply #12 in Autistic Boy Voted Out of Kindergarten — Posted September 05, 2008, 07:09:21 AM
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I have persimmons.

Seems to be all over blogs and such.
Looks like the family plans to sue.
http://www.tcpalm.com/news/2008/jun/07/alex-barton-family-plans-to-sue/


As awful as the story is, I did feel guilty for laughing at this on one blog.

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sinic Reply #13 in Autistic Boy Voted Out of Kindergarten — Posted September 05, 2008, 07:14:51 AM
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Seems like the investigation is still ongoing
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Jade_Dragon Reply #14 in Autistic Boy Voted Out of Kindergarten — Posted September 05, 2008, 11:42:24 AM
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*disclaimer*  I didn't read the whole story or the entire thread, just scanned.

However, FWIW, something similar (albeit less harsh I'm sure) happened to me in elementary school.  I don't remember the exact details but basically I could be a rather annoying and sometimes mean child at times.  On the level of taking scissors, pulling hair kind of thing.  I just wanted to make friends and didn't know how to basically.  Well anyway, one day the teacher had us all sit in a circle and basically one by one give me feedback on what kind of a person I was.  Like the kids would say "I don't really like it when you pull my hair and it make me not want to be your friend", etc.  I remember I was quite upset and started crying and it was definitely something that was imprinted on my mind.  However, it did have the intended effect of making me start to realize that that wasn't the way to go about things and that if I wanted to be friends I would have to be friendly to people. 

So, I'm not saying that the teacher was necessarily right, I'm just saying that maybe she had decent intentions and it just played out in a bad way.  I certainly don't think it's worth suing over.  I had a teacher tell me she "wouldn't be my friend for a million dollars" once in front of the whole class.  Was it inappropriate? Yes.  Did it scar my young mind?  Yes.  But, whatever, I mean stuff happens and that's part of growing up.  She got a stern talking to from my Mom and that was it, end of story, we moved on.  I'd like to think that I'm a 1000 times better at maintaining interpersonal relationships now then I was then and I definitely think it was due in part to some of the harsh "wake up" type criticisms and experiences that I had. 
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Jade, the problem is this teacher knew clearly that the child most likely had Aspergers and what that would mean in terms of symptoms and interactions with people.

She was a part of the team working to get this kid an education plan and the testing done so that he could have a teaching assistant.

Aspergers isn't something you can fix with "wake up" criticisms.
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But many times if someone makes the effort to explain things the person with Aspergers is usually very upset and apologetic for having hurt / offended other people unintentionally.

Ok, I'm taking this to mean that you agree that it's possible for people with Aspergers to improve as they learn more about how their actions are affecting other people.

I agree that it was a harsh and probably inappropriate thing of the teacher to do but I don't agree that it's not something that the child could learn from, based on the above.  So I guess I disagree with your saying "Aspergers isn't something you can fix with 'wake up' criticisms".  That may be the barbaric way to go about it but it is a form of explaining to them how their actions affect other people.  It won't "cure" them but it might help.  I've seen improvement from both my cousin and a friend from school (both with aspergers) from essentially being ostracized so much that over time they had to start to question what it was that they were doing that caused them to always have no friends.  It would have been nicer for them if they would have learned some other way but the rest of the world isn't set up accommodate them in that manner, for better or worse.

So again, I'm not saying it was right but I don't think it was unspeakably bad either and it might actually have done a little bit of good as well.
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lil_poiple_ash Reply #17 in Autistic Boy Voted Out of Kindergarten — Posted September 05, 2008, 02:27:36 PM

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And the world is never going to change if the message we keep sending to children is that it's okay to punish kids for things outside of their control. I live in a world where to humiliate someone is not appropriate.

This young boy wasn't a threat to other students he wasn't violent. He was a kindergarten student who would hum and sometimes eat his home work. In the grand scheme of kindergarten classes that probably doesn't even make him the most disruptive student.

The problem wasn't that the boy wasn't interacting appropriately. In fact at the school he had made his first ever friend which is a huge deal for a small child with aspergers.

If the teacher had opted to sit down with the team working on this students education plan and talk about her concerns and find ways to address them that would have been a perfectly acceptable response.

What she did is emotional abuse and since this young boy has been pulled out of the school and lost his first ever friend as a result... I'm failing to see the good. She had this young boy stand at the front of his class and listen as his peers each got to say what they didn't like about *HIM*. Not his behaviours... him.

Just because someone has a disability does not give us the right to ridicule and criticise them and make them a  spectacle. 
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