Author Topic: Random questions for the sex stuff (Read 92562 times)

Scix · « **Reply #1600 on:** February 10, 2012, 09:21:21 PM »

Possible STI for the topper, too.

"Oh, do it in my butt and I won't get pregnant" huh? That's right up there with "I'm on the pill, so it's okay." I know of too many men AND women who seem to think birth control = safe.

Gudy · « **Reply #1601 on:** February 11, 2012, 05:32:25 AM »

Quote from: Scix on February 10, 2012, 09:21:21 PM

"Oh, do it in my butt and I won't get pregnant"

Yeah, as for that, I've never been quite convinced of how true that actually is. Given how close together the two orifices are, I imagine that sperm dribbling out of one and into the other has to at least be possible...

Scix · « **Reply #1602 on:** February 11, 2012, 03:38:14 PM »

I would be willing it has occurred more than once in all of human history.

Sperm are pretty hearty.

TGU · « **Reply #1603 on:** February 18, 2012, 05:24:55 AM »

Hey ladies: I've never been to a gynecologist. I should rectify this, 'cause it's good to keep tabs on ALL the various parts of the body. So uh...how do I go about finding a good one?

stargazer2 · « **Reply #1604 on:** February 18, 2012, 07:29:50 AM »

I would start with Yelp, honestly. Cross reference it with your insurance (if you have any). Read between the lines of the reviews, because some will inevitably have a chip on their shoulder, some will give one star because an outstanding doctor made them wait 20 extra minutes in the room with no reading material, and so forth. Check with your friends, as well. If you find one who's not willing to listen to you at least well enough to understand any symptoms and preferences find another one next time. You may feel a little uncomfortable with them the first time, but if they seem to understand that and respect it, that's a good choice.

Cytherea · « **Reply #1605 on:** February 26, 2012, 07:56:45 AM »

Also, you don't need a specialist -- a regular GP or family practice doc can do just fine for your ladyparts, and handle any/everything else, too.

catfishncod · « **Reply #1606 on:** February 26, 2012, 05:47:42 PM »

Quote from: Cytherea on February 26, 2012, 07:56:45 AM

Also, you don't need a specialist -- a regular GP or family practice doc can do just fine for your ladyparts, and handle any/everything else, too.

Agreed, but some GP/FPs are better/more familiar with it than others. If you are shopping around for a primary, you can see which ones list women's health as an interest-- they will have more of the GYN cross-training. But if all you want are shots, paps, and screening tests-- yeah, any primary can do that. (and should.)

Lorelei · « **Reply #1607 on:** February 27, 2012, 09:00:19 PM »

My primary care doctor doesn't do gyno stuff at all. I have to see a separate doctor for that.

zephyr35 · « **Reply #1608 on:** March 20, 2012, 08:12:42 PM »

Quote from: Scix on December 03, 2011, 03:06:15 PM

I like them when they make a slide-whistle sound effect as they grow.

...Genetic engineers, I am looking at you. Get on it, people!

What about some sort of springy BOIIIIINNGGGGG sound?

No?

Scix · « **Reply #1609 on:** March 21, 2012, 01:50:36 AM »

That'd be good, too!

Malk · « **Reply #1610 on:** May 03, 2012, 09:18:44 AM »

Does anyone have any idea what Planned Parenthood charges for a prescription for BC?

Cytherea · « **Reply #1611 on:** May 03, 2012, 12:00:21 PM »

Quote from: Malk on May 03, 2012, 09:18:44 AM

Does anyone have any idea what Planned Parenthood charges for a prescription for BC?

Last time I went, it was a sliding scale based on income and insurance.

S_C · « **Reply #1612 on:** May 03, 2012, 02:51:28 PM »

http://www.plannedparenthood.org/hudsonpeconic/cost-calculator-33153.htm might be helpful.

PoipleAsh · « **Reply #1613 on:** May 07, 2012, 12:01:39 AM »

Short of yelling "Thrust! Thrust! Thrust!" How would one top from the bottom? My joints are all upset with me and my partner doesn't enjoy topping a great deal because well they over think everything ever including sex so it tends to go best if he just lies back an thinks of the empire... but tragically my dear sweet mister could pass as the hulk if he ever let me paint him green.... and my hips are not up to that just now.

Normally I just throw my legs up around the person's ears and use the deceptive amount of thigh strength I have to force the person to do what I have decided would be best for all of us and it works well... but not with him... stupid sexy muscles!

Ideally (for my joints right now but not a happy sex life) we should be spooning while having sex but he over thinks that.

Other info of note: Pain is a no go.

S*S · « **Reply #1614 on:** May 07, 2012, 12:28:29 AM »

No idea, but if you have a largeish tub, would sex in the bath help?

Tamsin · « **Reply #1615 on:** May 07, 2012, 07:45:08 AM »

Hmm. You could go with something more mentally dominating and less physically so, Ash.

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I hope that helps and perhaps gives some ideas!

*SkaKitty* · « **Reply #1616 on:** May 07, 2012, 08:55:29 AM »

This makes me want to buy a collar now!

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EnsoMu · « **Reply #1617 on:** May 07, 2012, 10:15:24 AM »

Communication with your partner is key. You might want to explore the aspect of his overthinking, and work within that. Also explore what sorts of pleasure(s) you each take out of intimacy. For example, I more enjoy pleasing my partner, so my focus tends to be partner-centric. Most of my partners have been pleasure receivers so that has worked out well; but I suspect if I partnered up with another giver type, we'd have to negotiate what we'd each like out of things.

The thing is, even in a power dynamic relationship one should be able to sit down and negotiate how the ebb and flow of things is going to work.

Gudy · « **Reply #1618 on:** May 07, 2012, 10:40:24 AM »

Quote from: EnsoMu on May 07, 2012, 10:15:24 AM

good stuff

That pretty much sums up my thoughts on this, too.

PoipleAsh · « **Reply #1619 on:** May 07, 2012, 08:53:55 PM »

Quote from: Tamsin on May 07, 2012, 07:45:08 AM

Hmm. You could go with something more mentally dominating and less physically so, Ash.

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Okay, so... dress yourself up in whatever way he likes best to see you. Sit or lie on your bed and have him stand in front of you. Lay a collar down next to you, and then tell him that if he is very good and pleases you well, he gets to enjoy you as well. Have him strip and masturbate for you, to get himself ready - and do things that will excite him, like touching yourself, reaching out and playing with him - and be sure to say things that will make him understand his place here. Talk about how good he looks, how much you enjoy watching him. Give him direction to what he's doing, like telling him to go slower, or turn to give you a better view, or to stop and let you feel him. This part is all about objectifying him and establishing that he's there to perform for your benefit.

At some point, either pull him onto the bed with you or beckon him down with you. Collar the boy and pull him on top of you by the collar. Keeping hold of it, tell him he's been good and that he gets his reward now. Tell him exactly how you want him to fuck you. As he's doing so, don't be shy about grabbing that collar again and directing him. Maybe make a few comments, like telling him he can do better for you, or praising something he does do right because it feels good to you? After all, you're at the center here - his job is to make you feel good, and fucking you is both the method by which he does that and his reward.

Once you've come enough, perhaps he gets an extra reward of being allowed to fuck you as he likes - or have you go down on him, or be allowed to go down on you, or be spanked, or whatever he'd consider a special treat, really.

I hope that helps and perhaps gives some ideas!

That actually gave me a ton of ideas! I think my brain go so stuck in the "ow" mode from this flare up all my own creativity just died! But that actually gave me a few ideas I want to try!

Quote from: EnsoMu on May 07, 2012, 10:15:24 AM

Communication with your partner is key. You might want to explore the aspect of his overthinking, and work within that. Also explore what sorts of pleasure(s) you each take out of intimacy. For example, I more enjoy pleasing my partner, so my focus tends to be partner-centric. Most of my partners have been pleasure receivers so that has worked out well; but I suspect if I partnered up with another giver type, we'd have to negotiate what we'd each like out of things.

The thing is, even in a power dynamic relationship one should be able to sit down and negotiate how the ebb and flow of things is going to work.

Oh I know why he over thinks. He over thinks EVERYTHING. It is a part of his anxiety in general. Everything in our apartment is organized in a certain way because otherwise he gets so tense that he thinks he's going to die. It isn't that he can't or doesn't communicate in general that negotiation process is how we discovered he is happiest if I wear the pants so to speak during happyfuntimes. Minus me physically normally taking a lot of the control in the bedroom we really don't have a power dynamic relationshipy thing going on.

But you did also spark a few ideas. I think while I wait to be physically able to act on the ideas Tam has given me I am going to be a bit of a tease! He has mentioned in the past he likes to be teased. Thanks for reminding me of that!

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